Talking about your cancer

After a diagnosis of cancer you may find it very difficult to talk about what’s happening to you and how you feel. Many people find it awkward and embarrassing (or uncomfortable and even painful) to talk about their illness with their family and friends.

How talking can give you support

• Generally, people seem to get comfort from talking to each other. Discussing fears or concerns can put them into perspective.
• Sometimes, you may think you have unanswered questions and you may find it difficult to make up your mind about some issues. You may only realise the answer when you ask someone else the question. In other words, talking about something can often help you to know how you feel about it.
• If the person you are talking to hears your fears or concerns and then simply stays with you, it can help you to feel that your feelings are completely normal. This may reassure you.
• Talking about a fear or a worry often stops it from growing in our minds. Often when we are thinking about something all the time, we worry about it more and more. Once the fear is out in the open and is being discussed, this process often stops.
• Finally, talking about something important or personal creates a bond between people. This is valuable in itself and can make you feel appreciated and supported.  If you would like to talk to someone about this please contact our Psycho-Oncology team.

Visit Macmillan.org.uk for more information on talking about your cancer.